Something has been on my mind a lot lately. Well, I guess it is often on my mind, it's just been bothering me a lot more lately.
I'm home for a few weeks this summer, and I've already been asked the typical questions:
"How long are you here?"
"When do you graduate?"
"What's your major again?"
and last, and most certainly least...
"Do you have a boyfriend?"
No. No I do not. And you know something? I am more than perfectly okay with that.
I don't know why it has been bothering me so much when people ask me that, but I guess it just feels more personal this time. Like really, the only thing people care about, or the thing that shows any sort of success, is whether or not I have a boyfriend.
This is so frustrating to me! I understand that some people are just making conversation. But when some people take on this obnoxious tone of surprise, I just can't stand it. I can tell that the follow-up question they want to ask is, "Well, why not?"
I couldn't tell you. I couldn't tell you why my two beautiful, funny, talented, smart, fantastic roommates don't have boyfriends either. But I can tell you one thing for sure: it does not matter. They are all of those things with or without a guy in their life.
I am really sick of people thinking that our relationship status is the only thing that is important. That getting married is the only measure of success.
It's not.
I could rant about the many good reasons I shouldn't be married right now, but I won't. There's too many "I'M SINGLE AND PROUD" girls out there already, and I don't intend on being one of them.
What I will say though, is that people need to start caring more about the other things that make us single girls outstanding, and successful. Or at least just have the courtesy to ask about them. Ask us about how we feel about starting our program. Ask us about our jobs. Ask us about the countries we've traveled to and studied in. Ask us about our goals, our passions, our hobbies. Ask us about anything else besides our relationship status, and you've got yourself an excellent and pleasant conversation ahead of you.
Maybe I'm the only girl who feels this way, but I just feel like so many girls get the wrong idea about where their worth lies and what makes them interesting, and none of it has to do with a man.
Sorry, boys. ;)
